Tough Transition

Transition is painful, many a times. Not very recently I have realized the importance of having value for your word, your own individuality, your aura in a group and the negative impact of pretentions. I was helpless. How can I gain them? The house iam living is having foundation called "submissivenss", with walls called " complacency" and roof called "good guy image". It was built through many years. The foundation was made strong by the little events of my early childhood , the way i was raised, the way my mind percieved the relations and happenings in my circle. Recently I have read that the first 5 years of child decide his next 60 years of life.

Submissiveness, is not taking responcibility, is seeing yourself incapable, is a smooth criminal!!
Adds to it the complacent nature, seeing positive in your incapability, ameliorating your cowardliness. The root cause is the "good guy syndrome", presenting your softer side to the world suppressing your emotions, your individuality and the worst part is that you wouldnot be aware of it.

The critical part of my transition is the awareness. Iam happy that my life gave me a divine oppurtunity in the form of love, to be sentient.Many a situations have become tough for me to deal.The reason was in camaflouge. An infinite "WHY's" helped me find an answer called "Submissiveness".

Then followed an infinite "How's". I was depressed. I couldnt find an answer, within my self. How would I? My faculty of thought, my intuition was all based on my childhood experiences. I have asked my friends, I have read books and articles. To develop "Assertiveness".
tips given by my friends:
1) Be a decision maker.
2) Ask for opinions on your say.
3)Take the blame.
4)Being straight with someone doesnt mean disrespecting him, but is respecting yourself.
Now all that required is putting them in practice.

Transition is indeed tough!